Dear LeeSun,

What do you find attractive in a person? How can I be more attractive?

B.

Dear B,

I think happiness is incredibly attractive. Happy people also have more personal resources for relationships, than unhappy people. So they’re more patient, more understanding, more supportive … and that’s very attractive. I guess if you want to be happy (or happier), have a think about what makes you truly happy and go from there. I don’t mean things like enjoying getting drunk off your head because it gives you a break from your unhappiness/life. I mean the sort of things that would make you so happy that you wouldn’t feel the need to get drunk in the first place (though you still might from time to time).

I’ve also got a soft spot for people who are articulate, who communicate well, and are wise. By ‘wise’ I mean able to make good decisions and behave like a grown up when necessary. But that’s just me. If you wanted to be more attractive to me, I suppose you could work on your listening skills and communication skills … www.videojug.com has got some great little tips on how to do that.

If you want to be more attractive in general, there are the tried and tested basics, such as taking good care of yourself. Wash regularly, find a hairstyle that suits you, look after your personal hygiene, dress in a way that you find comfortable but also flatters you, eat healthily and exercise regularly. I think everybody is attracted to nice-smelling, clean healthy happy people. Of course, sometimes people are willing to overlook a lack of those things, if something else about you is particularly engaging or attractive to them … for example if you are fabulously wealthy. But those are quirks, not the rule.

Hope that answers your question?

LeeSun

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